Ahh confidence. That elusive ‘thing’ we long for to help us move forwards in life. We can lose it as easily as we build it and it can make or break our dreams.
I know I lost 99% of mine when I was signed off work in 2019 and it took me a good 6-12 months to build it back up again, both in my corporate job and my side hustle. How did I do it?
1. Identify your Spark Team
I did a bit of an 'audit' at all the people in my life and who lit me up like a firecracker. Some were friends like my best mate Sarah who gets pure joy from brainstorming with me and seeing me succeed. Some were work colleagues who I knew were in ‘my camp’ and some were people in my coaching cohort. Sure I didn't know them as well, but they understood what I was trying to accomplish and supported me through it.
2. Get rid of Energy Zappers
I did a bit of a life audit and worked out who and what was draining my energy. I realised there were certain people who just zapped me and didn’t ‘get’ where I was trying to go, so I cut down the time I spent with them, in favour of my spark team. I unfollowed anyone on social media who made me feel like shit and did things like decluttering my physical space (home office) and my online space (desktop).
3. Take messy, imperfect action every day
Finally, I fully embraced the phrase from the great Rich Litvin that ‘Confidence is a result, not a requirement’. What he means by that is that all too often, we get in our own way by saying things like ‘I’ll do it when I’m more confident’, or ‘I just need to feel more confident and then I’ll speak to him / put my prices up / launch my website, etc’. But in actual fact if you look at any area of your life that you are, in fact confident in, you got there by practising. By doing. By taking action. So I took messy, imperfect action every day. No matter how small or insignificant the action seemed, I just kept moving forwards towards my goal.
And you know what? I’m confident now. Sure, I still suffer with doubts and imposter syndrome, but I know how to tackle them, using the steps above.
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Career Change & Business Coach and Side Hustle Queen
Hi, I'm Lauren. I burnt out, hit rock bottom and used the experience to manifest my dream life. I now help passionate and ambitious women change career, start side hustles and grow businesses. I'm living proof that you can - and deserve to - have it all.
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